Stop Worrying and Start Living - Dale Carnegie
That is the title of the book I read about 3 years ago in 2006. The book that has affected my life. The book that has changed me. The book that has taught me many things. The book that I treasured so much and given to me by my husband. And now... the book is gone. I don't know where it is already. I'm looking for it hi and lo. Where could it be? And why am I looking for it?
Well, the reason is because now...just recently, or about 10 days ago, all the worries come crawling back into my life...and it somehow is affecting me terribly. I could still remember all those things I read in the book about worries but I am still worried. And I am not sure whether this is productive or unproductive, realistic or unrealistic. What I know is - I am WORRIED. And I have to eliminate this fast as it is getting into the way of my everyday routine. It is making me uneasy. It is making me unhappy. It is sometimes driving me up the wall. It is also disturbing my sleep.
It is actually easier said than done. You can tell someone who comes up to you and asks for advice NOT to WORRY. You can tell them that worry will kill them. Worry will not do any good. Worry is most of the time unnecessary. And yes, I did read that book by Dale Carnegie that 99% of the things you worry about don't happen. So, why do people still bother to worry? But when it comes to yourself facing the worry, it is so so HARD to let it go just like that. You keep telling yourself over and over again not to worry. Don't think about it. You make yourself busy. You grab something to read. You put on loud music. But the result is you still worry.
So, today, I went to a few websites that talk about how to eliminate worry. It seems that worry is perfectly normal for all human beings. It is just the natural way we respond to events in our life. When something happens, we start worrying. The difference is how each individual "fight" that worry they're experiencing. And whether the person is a frequent worrier or isn't.
The person I know who doesn't worry at all or worry least is my husband. And sometimes I do wonder how he does that. He always tells me that he doesn't like to think about things which are not in his hands to decide or not in his power to control. Which I think is right. But again. Things are always easier said than done.
So, back to my state of worriness...what can I do about this? How shall I eliminate it from my system? Gosh........only God knows.........
