FEATURE STORY 11

Everyone Can Be A Wife --- But To Be A Good Wife Is Darn Hard

From my 10-year marriage I can tell anyone for sure that the topic above is 199.99% TRUE!

I believe that to be a wife is simple. Get yourself hitched to someone and you're a wife. But to be a good wife (especially for your own husband to label you as a good wife) is definitely hard. It's not an easy task to fulfill.

It takes tremendous amount of sacrifices on the woman's side. Without this, I think most marriages on this earth won't work. I used to tell myself before that I want to be a modern, contemporary wife who doesn't need to sacrifice so much. I want to be on the same level as my husband. But that was before. This is now.

How can I be a "modern" wife? Well, in fact, I could. But would I be able to endure the challenges of a single mother? Would I be able to substitute my children's longing of a father? Would I be able to do everything alone? I thought I am one brave woman. I thought so. I may be. In some areas of my life as a woman. But I am definitely not strong enough when it comes to my kids. I would automatically surrender when the issue involves my four jewels. That is FINAL. So, what choices are left for me? SACRIFICE and MORE SACRIFICE.

Women who are wives and mothers have to sacrifice if not more, at least a double dose than women who are without the two extra societal roles. Here is my point of view of sacrifices of a woman. We have to sacrifice as a child to our parents. We then sacrifice as a wife. Afterwards, we sacrifice as a mother to all our children. Cutting it short, woman = sacrifices.

Just for the sake of sharing, whenever I argue with my husband now ... I would most of the time absorb everything into my stomach (and I am lucky I have a BIG one!!!) and later on just "totally forget" about it. Do I feel satisfied you asked? Well, frankly speaking, of course I don't , but what choice do I have?

This brings me back to a book I read a few years ago...The Surrendered Wife... I forgot who the author is but I remember it was a good reading. So, my dear fellow wives around the globe, to be a GOOD wife, you have to be a SURRENDERED wife...

Good luck!!!